Why do I keep losing things? Aka Nothing good has ever come from trying to "just not forget"
(I whipped up a quick comic cause I had a joke on my mind, but I'll be doing a whole graphic on coping with memory issues!)
The last panel is based on an incredible video by How to ADHD
Saw this on facebook and am keeping the momentum going. I’ve copied all the fundraiser links below, and here’s the link to the original post in case you’d prefer to look at the list that way.
I will periodically update the progress amounts. As the goals are met, I’ll mark them as funded and change the colors from green to pink to make it clear. I’m also tagging the ones that could use more attention with red.
Been hearing a lot about “reparations” lately? Well, this is one way to start working towards that, since those in power certainly won’t.
I’m gonna write a male character the same way girlbosses and Action Girls are written. He’s kicking ass! Watch out, don’t mess with this guy! He’s tough as nails but still has time to look flawless. You totally think he’s helpless, but he’s totally not. That’s not a frivolous beauty item he’s got there, it’s a KNIFE! Watch out for Boyboss. Boyboss is a badass. Please look at his thighs
It looks like my post is being misinterpreted, so, just to clarify:
My point wasn’t that Boyboss would be hot, or empowering, or a himbo. Like, I’m sure he would be, but that’s not the takeaway I’m going for here. My point was that it’s disturbing and bad how many FEMALE characters are written this way. FEMALE objectification. I’m sick of seeing my action movies—a personal favorite genre of mine—represent my entire gender as sexy, badass, and nothing else. Here’s what Joss Whedon said during Black Widow’s introductory scene in The Avengers:
“This is my entire career in one scene: Look, she’s helpless! No, she’s kicking their asses!”
This is the kind of attitude towards women I was trying to parody in my original post. Whedon, and writers like Whedon, seem to think they’re doing women a favor by objectifying them in this “empowered” way. I can’t seem to get away from it! It drives me insane! So that’s why I felt a little hurt when I saw tags like “#hot” and “#I wanna look at his thighs” on my post. ‘Cause I DON’T wanna look at an Action Girl’s thighs. I want her to be written like a fucking human being.
SF Loves Tango: You co-host an annual Women’s Tango Retreat. Can you discuss your motivation for creating events for women only?
Sharna: Looking back, I think it was my very early experiences with social tango that set the stage for my work with women. I was only 22 years old when I started, and I had that familiar experience that gets discussed a lot now on tango blogs, where the young beginner gals get asked to dance constantly by all the men while the more skilled and more mature women sit and watch. The community was quite small in 1997, so I felt this phenomenon very acutely, and I saw that it isolated me from the other women, and the whole situation really bothered me. I also was not at all comfortable with the attention I was getting simply for being young and female, but I didn’t know what to do about it. All I remember, now, is that it was extremely stressful to navigate that territory, and it was interfering with my creative enjoyment of the dancing.
I might have dropped out, eventually, but then I had the great fortune to study with a series of teachers who advocated the dancing of both roles (Daniel Trenner, Brigitta Winkler, Nil Disco and Esse Dijks). In particular, seeing women dance together was mind-altering for me. I had studied contemporary dance in college and so, in that moment, it just sort of clicked in my head that tango was another form of Dance, with a capital D, and suddenly it seemed like the most natural thing in the world for me to learn both parts and to be able to dance with anyone, just as a contemporary dancer can perform a duet with anyone, change position, or learn someone else’s part.
This re-orientation toward tango roles immediately connected me with other women in the community, because I could dance with them, and my doing that diminished a lot of the competitiveness that had been there before. That, I actually found kind of revelatory, and the women that I practiced leading with became my closest friends.
Later as a professional instructor and organizer, I saw the same story repeating itself in countless variations, so based on my own experience, the response was pretty clear for me: make classes and workshops for women to learn to lead together. I would say it’s a kind of community building, and it helps to neutralize that competitive tendency that exists in social tango, especially when there are more women than men, which is often the case. There are millions of other reasons why leading is a good thing for women to do, but I’ll leave that for another article!
Dancing among ourselves or in settings other than the traditional is a political choice that allows us to practice freedom, trust and care… The seeds planted by these ideas, germinate…
I’ve realized my Ideal Outfit is this:
button-ups, high-waisted jeans, and Docs. You literally can’t go wrong.
it’s perfect. you can dress it up or down. it’s flattering on any body type. it’s the perfect amount of androgynous, and it even has Femme and Masc variants:
Right now I’m wearing a botanical print blouse I thrifted off etsy and it’s from the 90s so it has shoulder pads sewn in. fuckin sweet is what it is
I’m gonna write a male character the same way girlbosses and Action Girls are written. He’s kicking ass! Watch out, don’t mess with this guy! He’s tough as nails but still has time to look flawless. You totally think he’s helpless, but he’s totally not. That’s not a frivolous beauty item he’s got there, it’s a KNIFE! Watch out for Boyboss. Boyboss is a badass. Please look at his thighs
It looks like my post is being misinterpreted, so, just to clarify:
My point wasn’t that Boyboss would be hot, or empowering, or a himbo. Like, I’m sure he would be, but that’s not the takeaway I’m going for here. My point was that it’s disturbing and bad how many FEMALE characters are written this way. FEMALE objectification. I’m sick of seeing my action movies—a personal favorite genre of mine—represent my entire gender as sexy, badass, and nothing else. Here’s what Joss Whedon said during Black Widow’s introductory scene in The Avengers:
“This is my entire career in one scene: Look, she’s helpless! No, she’s kicking their asses!”
This is the kind of attitude towards women I was trying to parody in my original post. Whedon, and writers like Whedon, seem to think they’re doing women a favor by objectifying them in this “empowered” way. I can’t seem to get away from it! It drives me insane! So that’s why I felt a little hurt when I saw tags like “#hot” and “#I wanna look at his thighs” on my post. ‘Cause I DON’T wanna look at an Action Girl’s thighs. I want her to be written like a fucking human being.
